Be with someone who lets you be you.

I speak about freedom as though it comes so naturally to me, because it does.

However there was a time in my life where things were not so free, where I was constantly watching Β what I would say and being controlled from day in day out to what I could and could not do. Even down to what I would wear and who I would speak to, and then one day I had enough courage to break away from that and began living my own life, not a life which someone else pushed on to me.

And this is why I am so passionate about helping people find their own freedom and learning who they are, because no one deserves to be restricted of their own desires.

Find a partner who will lift you up, make you smile, and let you follow your own dreams. If your partner is making restrictions on who you see and talk to, you really need to ask yourself this questions, am I being controlled? Because most of the time people are being manipulated in relationships without even realising.

It’s not ok for a man or women to make you feel anxious and scared, it is not ok for your partner to control your bank account or control your life. You deserve to be with someone who brings you endless amounts of happiness and makes you feel worthy.

You deserve to be able to and go on that solo hike or adventure you’ve been dreaming off, and your partner should be there to say, yes baby go for it! You deserve happiness just as much as your partner does, and you both deserve freedom of speech, you aren’t always going to see eye to eye but don’t ever let another person tell you what you can and can’t do, you are your own person, no one owns you, you call the shots.

Respect your partner and respect their wishes, just as they should with you, and if you’re having trouble doing that then maybe its time to ask that questions again, am I being controlling or am I being controlled?

People fall in and out of relationships all the time, it’s a part of life, but don’t ever let another person control you or your thoughts. Love your partner, but learn to know when to see and say enough is enough its time for me to spread my winds.

You deserve happiness, and you deserve the partner who finally gives in and lets you buy that ChihuahuaΒ you’ve always wanted! πŸ˜‰ No but seriously spread those angel wings of yours and let those positive influences into your life, let the world know you are a free bird and if someone wants to stay in your life then you won’t let them clip your wings, only let them embrace those wings!

So get out there mate, and be you and only you, and you will attract the right vibe.

5 thoughts on “Be with someone who lets you be you.

  1. You pick the hard topics!!!

    But that’s good. There’s a fine line between negotiation and control.

    The ideal is to be together but separate. To have a secure relationship that allows you to go out into the world and be who you want to be; all the time knowing you have a rock of care and love to come back to.

    We always fall short. We get jealous. We can resent the other person. Sometimes we can be having a relationship in the present that is based on a person from our past. But if kindness is our priority then we might just get there. A relationship needs an open conversation to stay alive and interesting.

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